Wednesday, February 24, 2010
this is pretty funny!! this little girl is crying over justin bieber...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTCm8tdHkfI
40 hours in a day...
So first i just want point out that this is the second time that i am writing this blog... as the first time, i posted and it did not save or something and thus it is gone:(
oh well, what i was blogging about is how there just are not enough hours in the day! i mean wouldnt it be so much better if we had 40 hours in a day? i say that, but i feel like we would just find some way to fill those up too... like last night, we had our exec meeting, and we had so much to discuss and we still didnt get to everything. so it got me thinking about how can we run these meeting more efficently? it makes me think about the 10 minute team that we read in my business management class earlier in the quarter. it talks about how meetings should be 10 minutes of updates and then the remaninder of the meeting should be focused on the development of the org and action.
Now, i do think that pha is getting better at this b/c each week we discuss the topic that we will be discussing at our wed meetings with our directors and delegates. like this week we talked about service/philanthropy.
so i guess what i am asking is how much of annoucements could we cut out to keep everyone informed of what each ind. is doing but keep it short enough that we could focus on our next action steps and value discussions? i brought up maybe meeting up with our exec board one-on-one but then later i was thinking well they already do that with tyler so wouldnt that be redundant? maybe it would be just best to have everyone just do updates for 2 minutes. so that would technically be 10 min (10 min team) then the remainder of the time could be spent on action and value discussion..
i think it is something to consider, but with as fast as the days go, i guess i want us to be as efficient and productive as we can b/c before we now it our 52 weeks will pass by before our eyes...
oh well, what i was blogging about is how there just are not enough hours in the day! i mean wouldnt it be so much better if we had 40 hours in a day? i say that, but i feel like we would just find some way to fill those up too... like last night, we had our exec meeting, and we had so much to discuss and we still didnt get to everything. so it got me thinking about how can we run these meeting more efficently? it makes me think about the 10 minute team that we read in my business management class earlier in the quarter. it talks about how meetings should be 10 minutes of updates and then the remaninder of the meeting should be focused on the development of the org and action.
Now, i do think that pha is getting better at this b/c each week we discuss the topic that we will be discussing at our wed meetings with our directors and delegates. like this week we talked about service/philanthropy.
so i guess what i am asking is how much of annoucements could we cut out to keep everyone informed of what each ind. is doing but keep it short enough that we could focus on our next action steps and value discussions? i brought up maybe meeting up with our exec board one-on-one but then later i was thinking well they already do that with tyler so wouldnt that be redundant? maybe it would be just best to have everyone just do updates for 2 minutes. so that would technically be 10 min (10 min team) then the remainder of the time could be spent on action and value discussion..
i think it is something to consider, but with as fast as the days go, i guess i want us to be as efficient and productive as we can b/c before we now it our 52 weeks will pass by before our eyes...
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
TO THE LONGEST BLOG EVER.... I THINK SO:)
What are the strenghts of your chapter and in what ways does your chapter need to improve?
Wow. I feel like this is a loaded question, but I do see a lot of positive attributes to Kappa Delta, and I am proud to be a Kappa Delta. However, I know our chapter is not perfect, and like everything in life, we all can improve. I think tonight is a good example when I was disappointed with the commitment of our chapter. Tonight, we had a sisterhood event with Alpha Xi Delta, and unfortunately, we had a poor turnout. I think we probably had 10-12 KDs at the event where as Alpha Xi Delta had about 20-25. Now, granted I did not literally count each individual at the event, but I feel that the ratio was 5-6 Alpha Xi Delta's to 1-2 Kds. So ok my math is a little off, but anyways to me this is discouraging.
From a chapter perspective, these are responses I believe would be expected:
1. We had dance team at the same time so X members were unable to attend. YET, how many women are on dance team? Probably 20-30. hmm still leaves about 70 plus members
2. X members had to study. True, we are at school to perform in the classroom, but what about time management. Did you sleep in today? or did you waste an two hours watching tv? The event was only 1 hour. You couldn't spare that. Maybe a study break...
3. Other obligations. Can't really argue that:)
But, lets look at the flip side....
How many members show up to an alcoholic event with a fraternity? How many members went to formal last weekend? How many more members were free to go out last Saturday night?
So what about this:
1. Maybe prioritized better and studied that Saturday night or studied more on Sunday? Now, granted who studies Saturday night? but, still i think it goes back to time management and prioritizing. We all can make time for things if we plan.
So how many women were at formal? probably >80% of our chapter. Granted big event and ton of fun but being a member of kd is more than just the social events involving alcohol. We made an Oath to uphold the values of our sorority. Below I have included our Creed to illustrate what we believe in:
Kappa Delta Creed
May We, Sisters in Kappa Delta, strive each day to seek more earnestly the honorable and beautiful things. May We each day through the love of those within our circle, Learn to know and understand better those without our circle. May the diamond shield that guards our love find us each day Truer, Wiser, More Faithful, More Loving, and More Noble.
So above illustrates what we believe in, and I think one thing to highlight is the part that says "May we each day through the love of those within our circle, Learn to know and understand better those without our circle"
Some people may read that and think hmm conceded? Kd has their own circle. but it is not meant like that it is about being committed to the women in our sorority and all kds and being so close and knowing what we stand for ourselves that then we can understand others better. So does that mean we do not understand ourselves? since we do not take the time to understand others?
I do think this incident is a concern for our chapter as another thing that makes me so mad is when people say they want to do certain events to win chapter of the year. UGH! It drives me nuts! We should strive to do things b/c we want to know others more and grow as individuals and as a chapter by better understanding others (hmm interesting how that is a reflection of our creed....) We should do things to grow as individuals--more service, more sisterhoods, more events and more activities about personal development. I truly believe that being apart of a sorority is about developing as an individual and becoming better individuals, better sisters/brothers. I also believe that sororities/fraternities provide this opportunity through the close relationships that we develop so that we can support each other and grow as individuals.
So I do believe that things need to change within Kd so that we can become a better sorority and change these weaknesses into strengths. I think this all goes back to Ritual we need to understand who we are and what we believe in so that then we can live our Ritual and teach others (our new members and other Greeks) and then expect it from others. I also know that I am not a perfect kappa delta and am not at every event!
LONG blog... maybe to long.. but keep going b/c I do love Kappa Delta, and the POSITIVE cannot be omitted.
1. I love Kappa Delta for the women that our in our chapter. Many of my best friends are Kappa Deltas, and they have made my college experience the best ever. These women will be my bridesmaids; they will be my best friends beyond our four year experience; they will be the ones I call when I get engaged, who I call when I am sad or excited; they are the ones I will go on trips with. They are not just my friends they are my SISTERS. and that is what Kappa Delta is to me it is my FAMILY away from HOME! When I think about being a senior, it makes me so sad b/c I live in my house and all i can think is how much I am going to miss my sisters next year. We are all going different directions, and it breaks my heart b/c I am going to miss our late night talks, girls nights out, just having a friend down the hall to get advice, friends to laugh with, cry with, become better people. It makes me cry b/c things are going to be different next year. Yes, we will all keep in contact and visit but it is just not the same. I cannot imagine not living with my best friend next year and not having the ability to just come home from class and not see her:(
2. Kappa Delta has helped me grow in all aspects of my life. I a better leader b/c of Kappa Delta. I have a PASSION for SERVICE b/c of Kappa Delta and being Greek. Kd provided me with opportunities that I would not have had had I not joined my sorority. I remember when I applied to be on our Exec Board to be PHA delegate, and I did not get the position, and all the seniors came up to me and personally sat me down and say we did NOT vote for you. I was first thinking well thanks good to know... but then they said we did not vote for you b/c we believe you can do more for the community. we think you should apply for PHA and with their encouragement and support I did. Where would I be if they had not done that? would i have applied for PHA? I really am not sure?
3. I am proud of many of my sisters. Their actions inspire me to be a better person, better leader, better sister. I can think of many selfless acts by my sisters, and it is the small things that make me think wow I am so glad you are my sister. I remember freshman year I did not have a ride to church in Worthington and my friend would always drive me! That's a sister!
4. One thing that KD prides itself on is SISTERHOOD, INVOLVEMENT, and ACADEMICS. My favorite of these is sisters, and I have really seen this this year. We are close, and I love how I close to the younger members and not just my pledge class. I love how we all can just sit downstairs together and have fun together.
Ok so before I write the longest blog ever I am going to go on to the next question! In short, yes, we can be better, and yes, I plan on saying something in chapter next week about how we need to reevaluate what we value and make sure we are being the best women we can be, but at the same time, I am going to say that I am proud to be a Kappa Delta b/c to me, KD is family!
What are the strenghts of your council and in what ways does your council need to change?
Strengths of our Council. Well, this kinda goes along with Tyler's blog about words. How do we really define Council? PHA as a whole? the representatives that come to PHA meetings? I think you all mean Panhellenic Association as a WHOLE b/c together we make up the COUNCIL.
So Strengths:
1. I think this is hard b/c i just see so many areas to improve, and b/c I do not feel that we are a COMMUNITY yet and that makes it hard to really know are strenghs b/c we do not know each other. I see strengths in individual chapters such as those that demonstrate their commitment to service and those that continually demonstrate success during recruitment. But, I guess this question is really hard for me b/c I feel like we really do not know each other well enough to know our strengths as a COUNCIL. yes, we meet the standards of excellence but do we just do that b/c it is a requirement? I am inclined to say yes....
So since I am struggling to define our community; maybe you do mean PHA as our exec board, directors, and delegates...
1. I think our strongest attribute is the trust and relationships that we have started to develop. I do feel that we are a really close council and I love that! I really think we talk every day together!
2. We are committed to change, and we have already started to demonstrate this by changing how councils operate.
3. We are passionate about the community. We care about the direction we are headed in, and we want to help our community grow as well as help the individuals within it grow.
WHERE DO WE NEED TO CHANGE:
1. We need to figure out how to engage the community. How can we get everyone excited about being apart of PHA and not just her individual chapter. This is a huge problem.
If we can help everyone understand that they are not just X chapter but apart of PHA then hopefully start to create more COLLABORATION among the chapters and promote positive change.
2. Though I think we are in the process of changing this, we need to develop our council so that we are promoting personal development among the women. How is what we are doing making them better individuals? better prepared for the future? how are we making them aware of our values and how are we holding them accountable?
3. More ORGANIZED and better PLANNERS. we are working on this too, but how do we get people to meet deadlines each time. Follow-up is key but this is still a working progress...
What are the strenghs of our community and in what ways does our community need to change?
Community Strengths:
1. We have 4 strong councils this year and I believe this is the perfect foundation to strengthen our community
2. Strong Brother/Sisterhood; unfortunately this is a weakness too as we need to extend this to outside Chapter letters
3. We are value-based; again a weakness, we need to start PRACTICING these values DAILY!!
4. We are PROUD. I think people wear their letters so much b/c they love their organization. Again, we need to help them start loving the COMMUNITY and not just their CHAPTER. However, it is a STRENGTH to be apart of an organization you love!
5. We all took an OATH to our organization, and our commitment is for lifetime. This distinguishes us from other organizations...
WHERE TO CHANGE:
Slightly mentioned above, but again...
1. We are value-based lets start living it!!!
2. We are a community not just chapters; we need to collaborate and get to know each other better. We need to stop stereotyping and start supporting each other!
3. ALCOHOL! We need to stop making this the focal point and instead be more responsible and hold others accountable
4. HAZING! breaking people down to build them up... THAT IS THE WORST THING I HAVE EVER HEARD! that is not how it works! we should be helping our members GROW and become better people through providing them with opportunities to grow and supporting them!
So i know that is long, but i think those are some loaded questions and there is a lot to say about them!
Wow. I feel like this is a loaded question, but I do see a lot of positive attributes to Kappa Delta, and I am proud to be a Kappa Delta. However, I know our chapter is not perfect, and like everything in life, we all can improve. I think tonight is a good example when I was disappointed with the commitment of our chapter. Tonight, we had a sisterhood event with Alpha Xi Delta, and unfortunately, we had a poor turnout. I think we probably had 10-12 KDs at the event where as Alpha Xi Delta had about 20-25. Now, granted I did not literally count each individual at the event, but I feel that the ratio was 5-6 Alpha Xi Delta's to 1-2 Kds. So ok my math is a little off, but anyways to me this is discouraging.
From a chapter perspective, these are responses I believe would be expected:
1. We had dance team at the same time so X members were unable to attend. YET, how many women are on dance team? Probably 20-30. hmm still leaves about 70 plus members
2. X members had to study. True, we are at school to perform in the classroom, but what about time management. Did you sleep in today? or did you waste an two hours watching tv? The event was only 1 hour. You couldn't spare that. Maybe a study break...
3. Other obligations. Can't really argue that:)
But, lets look at the flip side....
How many members show up to an alcoholic event with a fraternity? How many members went to formal last weekend? How many more members were free to go out last Saturday night?
So what about this:
1. Maybe prioritized better and studied that Saturday night or studied more on Sunday? Now, granted who studies Saturday night? but, still i think it goes back to time management and prioritizing. We all can make time for things if we plan.
So how many women were at formal? probably >80% of our chapter. Granted big event and ton of fun but being a member of kd is more than just the social events involving alcohol. We made an Oath to uphold the values of our sorority. Below I have included our Creed to illustrate what we believe in:
Kappa Delta Creed
May We, Sisters in Kappa Delta, strive each day to seek more earnestly the honorable and beautiful things. May We each day through the love of those within our circle, Learn to know and understand better those without our circle. May the diamond shield that guards our love find us each day Truer, Wiser, More Faithful, More Loving, and More Noble.
So above illustrates what we believe in, and I think one thing to highlight is the part that says "May we each day through the love of those within our circle, Learn to know and understand better those without our circle"
Some people may read that and think hmm conceded? Kd has their own circle. but it is not meant like that it is about being committed to the women in our sorority and all kds and being so close and knowing what we stand for ourselves that then we can understand others better. So does that mean we do not understand ourselves? since we do not take the time to understand others?
I do think this incident is a concern for our chapter as another thing that makes me so mad is when people say they want to do certain events to win chapter of the year. UGH! It drives me nuts! We should strive to do things b/c we want to know others more and grow as individuals and as a chapter by better understanding others (hmm interesting how that is a reflection of our creed....) We should do things to grow as individuals--more service, more sisterhoods, more events and more activities about personal development. I truly believe that being apart of a sorority is about developing as an individual and becoming better individuals, better sisters/brothers. I also believe that sororities/fraternities provide this opportunity through the close relationships that we develop so that we can support each other and grow as individuals.
So I do believe that things need to change within Kd so that we can become a better sorority and change these weaknesses into strengths. I think this all goes back to Ritual we need to understand who we are and what we believe in so that then we can live our Ritual and teach others (our new members and other Greeks) and then expect it from others. I also know that I am not a perfect kappa delta and am not at every event!
LONG blog... maybe to long.. but keep going b/c I do love Kappa Delta, and the POSITIVE cannot be omitted.
1. I love Kappa Delta for the women that our in our chapter. Many of my best friends are Kappa Deltas, and they have made my college experience the best ever. These women will be my bridesmaids; they will be my best friends beyond our four year experience; they will be the ones I call when I get engaged, who I call when I am sad or excited; they are the ones I will go on trips with. They are not just my friends they are my SISTERS. and that is what Kappa Delta is to me it is my FAMILY away from HOME! When I think about being a senior, it makes me so sad b/c I live in my house and all i can think is how much I am going to miss my sisters next year. We are all going different directions, and it breaks my heart b/c I am going to miss our late night talks, girls nights out, just having a friend down the hall to get advice, friends to laugh with, cry with, become better people. It makes me cry b/c things are going to be different next year. Yes, we will all keep in contact and visit but it is just not the same. I cannot imagine not living with my best friend next year and not having the ability to just come home from class and not see her:(
2. Kappa Delta has helped me grow in all aspects of my life. I a better leader b/c of Kappa Delta. I have a PASSION for SERVICE b/c of Kappa Delta and being Greek. Kd provided me with opportunities that I would not have had had I not joined my sorority. I remember when I applied to be on our Exec Board to be PHA delegate, and I did not get the position, and all the seniors came up to me and personally sat me down and say we did NOT vote for you. I was first thinking well thanks good to know... but then they said we did not vote for you b/c we believe you can do more for the community. we think you should apply for PHA and with their encouragement and support I did. Where would I be if they had not done that? would i have applied for PHA? I really am not sure?
3. I am proud of many of my sisters. Their actions inspire me to be a better person, better leader, better sister. I can think of many selfless acts by my sisters, and it is the small things that make me think wow I am so glad you are my sister. I remember freshman year I did not have a ride to church in Worthington and my friend would always drive me! That's a sister!
4. One thing that KD prides itself on is SISTERHOOD, INVOLVEMENT, and ACADEMICS. My favorite of these is sisters, and I have really seen this this year. We are close, and I love how I close to the younger members and not just my pledge class. I love how we all can just sit downstairs together and have fun together.
Ok so before I write the longest blog ever I am going to go on to the next question! In short, yes, we can be better, and yes, I plan on saying something in chapter next week about how we need to reevaluate what we value and make sure we are being the best women we can be, but at the same time, I am going to say that I am proud to be a Kappa Delta b/c to me, KD is family!
What are the strenghts of your council and in what ways does your council need to change?
Strengths of our Council. Well, this kinda goes along with Tyler's blog about words. How do we really define Council? PHA as a whole? the representatives that come to PHA meetings? I think you all mean Panhellenic Association as a WHOLE b/c together we make up the COUNCIL.
So Strengths:
1. I think this is hard b/c i just see so many areas to improve, and b/c I do not feel that we are a COMMUNITY yet and that makes it hard to really know are strenghs b/c we do not know each other. I see strengths in individual chapters such as those that demonstrate their commitment to service and those that continually demonstrate success during recruitment. But, I guess this question is really hard for me b/c I feel like we really do not know each other well enough to know our strengths as a COUNCIL. yes, we meet the standards of excellence but do we just do that b/c it is a requirement? I am inclined to say yes....
So since I am struggling to define our community; maybe you do mean PHA as our exec board, directors, and delegates...
1. I think our strongest attribute is the trust and relationships that we have started to develop. I do feel that we are a really close council and I love that! I really think we talk every day together!
2. We are committed to change, and we have already started to demonstrate this by changing how councils operate.
3. We are passionate about the community. We care about the direction we are headed in, and we want to help our community grow as well as help the individuals within it grow.
WHERE DO WE NEED TO CHANGE:
1. We need to figure out how to engage the community. How can we get everyone excited about being apart of PHA and not just her individual chapter. This is a huge problem.
If we can help everyone understand that they are not just X chapter but apart of PHA then hopefully start to create more COLLABORATION among the chapters and promote positive change.
2. Though I think we are in the process of changing this, we need to develop our council so that we are promoting personal development among the women. How is what we are doing making them better individuals? better prepared for the future? how are we making them aware of our values and how are we holding them accountable?
3. More ORGANIZED and better PLANNERS. we are working on this too, but how do we get people to meet deadlines each time. Follow-up is key but this is still a working progress...
What are the strenghs of our community and in what ways does our community need to change?
Community Strengths:
1. We have 4 strong councils this year and I believe this is the perfect foundation to strengthen our community
2. Strong Brother/Sisterhood; unfortunately this is a weakness too as we need to extend this to outside Chapter letters
3. We are value-based; again a weakness, we need to start PRACTICING these values DAILY!!
4. We are PROUD. I think people wear their letters so much b/c they love their organization. Again, we need to help them start loving the COMMUNITY and not just their CHAPTER. However, it is a STRENGTH to be apart of an organization you love!
5. We all took an OATH to our organization, and our commitment is for lifetime. This distinguishes us from other organizations...
WHERE TO CHANGE:
Slightly mentioned above, but again...
1. We are value-based lets start living it!!!
2. We are a community not just chapters; we need to collaborate and get to know each other better. We need to stop stereotyping and start supporting each other!
3. ALCOHOL! We need to stop making this the focal point and instead be more responsible and hold others accountable
4. HAZING! breaking people down to build them up... THAT IS THE WORST THING I HAVE EVER HEARD! that is not how it works! we should be helping our members GROW and become better people through providing them with opportunities to grow and supporting them!
So i know that is long, but i think those are some loaded questions and there is a lot to say about them!
Monday, February 15, 2010
Good thoughts but wish you could see the pictures!
A Birth Certificate shows that we were born
A Death Certificate shows that we died
Pictures show that we lived!
Have a seat ... Relax ...
And read this slowly
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I Believe ...
That just because two people argue,
It doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
It doesn't mean they do love each other.
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I Believe ...
That we don't have to change friends if
We understand that friends change.
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I Believe ...
That no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I Believe ...
That true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
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I Believe ...
That you can do something in an instant
That will give you heartache for life.
I Believe ...
That it's taking me a long time
To become the person I want to be.
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I Believe ...
That you should always leave loved ones with
loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I Believe ...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
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I Believe ...
That we are responsible for what
We do, no matter how we feel.
I Believe ..
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
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I Believe ...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done,
when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
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I Believe ...
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I Believe ...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.
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I Believe ...
That sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
But that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I Believe ...
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and
less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.
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I Believe ...
That it isn't always enough,
to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I Believe ...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I Believe ...
That our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
But, we are responsible for who we become.
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I Believe ...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret.
AS it could change your life forever.
I Believe ...
Two people can look at the exact same
thing and see something totally different.
I Believe ...
That your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don't even know you.
ATT1292979.jpg
I Believe ...
That even when you think you have no more to give,
When a friend cries out to you -
you will find the strength to help.
I Believe ...
That credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.
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I Believe ...
That the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.
I Believe ...
That you should send this to
all of the people that you believe in, I just did.
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'The happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything they have.
and that’s my words of belief's for today ...
A Death Certificate shows that we died
Pictures show that we lived!
Have a seat ... Relax ...
And read this slowly
ATT1292968.jpg
I Believe ...
That just because two people argue,
It doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
It doesn't mean they do love each other.
ATT1292969.jpg
I Believe ...
That we don't have to change friends if
We understand that friends change.
ATT1292970.jpg
I Believe ...
That no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I Believe ...
That true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
ATT1292971.jpg
I Believe ...
That you can do something in an instant
That will give you heartache for life.
I Believe ...
That it's taking me a long time
To become the person I want to be.
ATT1292972.jpg
I Believe ...
That you should always leave loved ones with
loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I Believe ...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
ATT1292973.jpg
I Believe ...
That we are responsible for what
We do, no matter how we feel.
I Believe ..
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
ATT1292974.jpg
I Believe ...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done,
when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
ATT1292975.jpg
I Believe ...
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I Believe ...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.
ATT1292976.jpg
I Believe ...
That sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
But that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I Believe ...
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and
less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.
ATT1292977.jpg
I Believe ...
That it isn't always enough,
to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I Believe ...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I Believe ...
That our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
But, we are responsible for who we become.
ATT1292978.jpg
I Believe ...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret.
AS it could change your life forever.
I Believe ...
Two people can look at the exact same
thing and see something totally different.
I Believe ...
That your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don't even know you.
ATT1292979.jpg
I Believe ...
That even when you think you have no more to give,
When a friend cries out to you -
you will find the strength to help.
I Believe ...
That credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.
ATT1292980.jpg
I Believe ...
That the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.
I Believe ...
That you should send this to
all of the people that you believe in, I just did.
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'The happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything they have.
and that’s my words of belief's for today ...
Internet troubles and AFLV:)
OSU buckeyemail isnt working right now so I thought I would blog about this weekend and how much fun it was!!! It was so much fun to get to hang out with everyone and get to know everybody more! I had a blast and am so excited for this year! We have a great group of leaders on all four councils! There are definitely some things that I will not forget about this weekend...
1. Minglesticks. enough said.
2. Cranberry shots with our advisors. Poor example... Tyler and Maggie
3. STEP SHOW!! We have to participate in the variety show!! I think my moves are definitely legit:)
4. Bus ride!
5. "Get in my snuggle..."
6. Minglesticks
7. Leeches
8. Eating Chicken every meal. I love chicken!
9. Taking 3 lbs of food from the hotel for lunch, sam...
10. Hanging out with all of you!!! Think we need a reunion! have withdrawls from AFLV!!
When I was listening to the other Big Ten schools talk about their communities, I was thinking, yes OSU is not perfect, but I do feel that we are ahead of many of the big ten schools!!! Cant wait till this year! Its gonna be awesome!!
I think it would be really cool if we did participate in the StepShow and even get some of the younger kids that do step like the little kids that Sharrell teaches to be in our stroll!
1. Minglesticks. enough said.
2. Cranberry shots with our advisors. Poor example... Tyler and Maggie
3. STEP SHOW!! We have to participate in the variety show!! I think my moves are definitely legit:)
4. Bus ride!
5. "Get in my snuggle..."
6. Minglesticks
7. Leeches
8. Eating Chicken every meal. I love chicken!
9. Taking 3 lbs of food from the hotel for lunch, sam...
10. Hanging out with all of you!!! Think we need a reunion! have withdrawls from AFLV!!
When I was listening to the other Big Ten schools talk about their communities, I was thinking, yes OSU is not perfect, but I do feel that we are ahead of many of the big ten schools!!! Cant wait till this year! Its gonna be awesome!!
I think it would be really cool if we did participate in the StepShow and even get some of the younger kids that do step like the little kids that Sharrell teaches to be in our stroll!
Thursday, February 11, 2010
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ...
I am so ready for bed! What a fun day, but so tired! Excited for tomorrow, but the benefit of sleep cannot be denied!
NIGHT!!
NIGHT!!
So what is an Oath and why did we take them?
Thinking 3 years back when I pledged myself to Kappa Delta I know I did not really understand what was going on when we signed our oath. I knew what I envisioned that my experience would be like making new friends that I would one day call my sisters and opportunities to serve my community as well as serve as a leader. Yet, an oath? What was that back then? To me, I think I just thought I was becoming a member. Yes, I knew it was for life, but what it meant to me then has changed so much over time. Still, I have a life commitment to Kappa Delta, but it is a commitment that means so much to me. My sisters in Kappa Delta are just like my family. They mean so much to me. Coming back from my tangent, what is an oath?
An oath is a promise, it is a commitment, it is in essence a contract as we discussed in class. After our discussion, I do believe that the oath that we all made does distinguish us from all organizations. Even today, at AFLV the gentleman speaking spoke about our Ritual and how that separates us from other organizations. The Oath that we made to our organization consists of all of the ideals that encompass our Ritual. For me, I made an Oath to Kappa Delta that I would be a member for life and that I would commit to our ideals of sisterhood, service, scholarship, leadership, and reaching our potential. I made an Oath to "honorable, beauty, and highest" Now at first I used to misinterpret the beauty part of the promise that we made, but I get it know. It is not beauty in the physical sense but beauty from within--the beauty of one's heart and that beauty can be seen through one's actions.
So in sum the Oath that I made meant that I would be a Kappa Delta for life who committed myself to obtaining to the best of my ability our ideals each and every day. To me, an Oath is a challenge. Yes, once you sign it you can just forget about it, or you can accept that challenge and strive each day to obtain these ideals. Though we are not perfect, by holding ourselves accountable to these ideals we will become better people, and as better people, we can lead the change that we are striving to achieve.
An oath is a promise, it is a commitment, it is in essence a contract as we discussed in class. After our discussion, I do believe that the oath that we all made does distinguish us from all organizations. Even today, at AFLV the gentleman speaking spoke about our Ritual and how that separates us from other organizations. The Oath that we made to our organization consists of all of the ideals that encompass our Ritual. For me, I made an Oath to Kappa Delta that I would be a member for life and that I would commit to our ideals of sisterhood, service, scholarship, leadership, and reaching our potential. I made an Oath to "honorable, beauty, and highest" Now at first I used to misinterpret the beauty part of the promise that we made, but I get it know. It is not beauty in the physical sense but beauty from within--the beauty of one's heart and that beauty can be seen through one's actions.
So in sum the Oath that I made meant that I would be a Kappa Delta for life who committed myself to obtaining to the best of my ability our ideals each and every day. To me, an Oath is a challenge. Yes, once you sign it you can just forget about it, or you can accept that challenge and strive each day to obtain these ideals. Though we are not perfect, by holding ourselves accountable to these ideals we will become better people, and as better people, we can lead the change that we are striving to achieve.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
PHA!!
One of the goals of the Executive Board of PHA this year is to really help the other members at our meetings to understand the purpose of PHA and what our role is in the community as well as how we can help create a better community.
Last week, we started by dividing up the women into groups to discuss a portion of the Mission Statement. So this week, after first looking at what our purpose is and what we state that we stand for we are having a discussion by Jeff Pellitier about Values/Ritual.
We, as Exec, thought it would be smart to frame our Executive meetings around our PHA meetings; thus, we discuss a portion of the upcoming PHA meeting at our Exec meeting so we will be prepared to help facilitate or lead the discussions at the PHA meetings.
So values.... What do I value and how do they fall within the PHA Mission Statement:
1. I value my faith, my family, and my friends.
I value integrity, honesty, discipline
I value hard work and working to make a difference
I value helping other people and staying healthy
I value responsibility and high standards
I value opportunities and learning
I value the small things in life.
In our PHA Mission Statement, we state that we value:
1. scholarship
2. friendship
3. service
4. mataining high standards
5. health
6. diversity
7. strive to live
8. community
Even though I have kinda blogged about this before about how I feel that our community has a lot of things that we need to change and other things that we do well; I think that we are taking the first steps by the discussions that we are having in class and the initiatives that we are taking within our councils.
Last week, we started by dividing up the women into groups to discuss a portion of the Mission Statement. So this week, after first looking at what our purpose is and what we state that we stand for we are having a discussion by Jeff Pellitier about Values/Ritual.
We, as Exec, thought it would be smart to frame our Executive meetings around our PHA meetings; thus, we discuss a portion of the upcoming PHA meeting at our Exec meeting so we will be prepared to help facilitate or lead the discussions at the PHA meetings.
So values.... What do I value and how do they fall within the PHA Mission Statement:
1. I value my faith, my family, and my friends.
I value integrity, honesty, discipline
I value hard work and working to make a difference
I value helping other people and staying healthy
I value responsibility and high standards
I value opportunities and learning
I value the small things in life.
In our PHA Mission Statement, we state that we value:
1. scholarship
2. friendship
3. service
4. mataining high standards
5. health
6. diversity
7. strive to live
8. community
Even though I have kinda blogged about this before about how I feel that our community has a lot of things that we need to change and other things that we do well; I think that we are taking the first steps by the discussions that we are having in class and the initiatives that we are taking within our councils.
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Where did all those cows come from?
So yesterday I guess b/c of the weather "the milk man" was unable to deliver any milk to our house! Well, I have to have milk everyday! That is all I really drink: water, milk, and grapefruit/OJ in the morning... So I was a lil upset when I came back from class, and there was no milk!
When we were in class yesterday, I was complaining to Amanda how we did not have any milk, and that I was seriously gonna go buy some for the weekend. She responded,"We have plenty of milk at the Alpha Xi Delta chapter; we will donate some to the Kds." Now, I was not gonna steal their milk, but later, in the night after class, Amanda texted me and said they had extra cows at their house..... So have being pursued by her and Kristen (another Alpha Xi Delta) I walked over, and they donated 2 gallons of milk to our chapter!
Now, maybe you are thinking that is no big deal; it is just 2 gallons of milk. I disagree. Amanda could have ignored my comment and just told me to go buy some or not reach out to me a second time to come get milk. So to me, I am thinking this is a step toward COMMUNITY... one chapter helping another when they are in need or just need some milk:) Kinda like when neighbors talk about borrowing a cup of sugar. We are neighbors here in the Greek community so we should want to support each other in everything we do whether that is a risk management program (Tri Delta this Monday, Feb 8th) or Delta Sigma Theta's event on Feb 18th).
Either way, it was some much fun to come back to KD with milk and hear everyone be so impressed with the ladies of Alpha Xi Delta's act of kindness. They were genuinely impressed and appreciative. I feel like it is the small things in life that mean the most.
So where did those cows come from? our sisters down on 15th..
When we were in class yesterday, I was complaining to Amanda how we did not have any milk, and that I was seriously gonna go buy some for the weekend. She responded,"We have plenty of milk at the Alpha Xi Delta chapter; we will donate some to the Kds." Now, I was not gonna steal their milk, but later, in the night after class, Amanda texted me and said they had extra cows at their house..... So have being pursued by her and Kristen (another Alpha Xi Delta) I walked over, and they donated 2 gallons of milk to our chapter!
Now, maybe you are thinking that is no big deal; it is just 2 gallons of milk. I disagree. Amanda could have ignored my comment and just told me to go buy some or not reach out to me a second time to come get milk. So to me, I am thinking this is a step toward COMMUNITY... one chapter helping another when they are in need or just need some milk:) Kinda like when neighbors talk about borrowing a cup of sugar. We are neighbors here in the Greek community so we should want to support each other in everything we do whether that is a risk management program (Tri Delta this Monday, Feb 8th) or Delta Sigma Theta's event on Feb 18th).
Either way, it was some much fun to come back to KD with milk and hear everyone be so impressed with the ladies of Alpha Xi Delta's act of kindness. They were genuinely impressed and appreciative. I feel like it is the small things in life that mean the most.
So where did those cows come from? our sisters down on 15th..
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
LTR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"What are you secret thoughts of Ritual?"
Well, I guess my secret thoughts about Ritual are that its not really a SECRET! Yes, everyone has their own ceremony, and unique things that its individual chapter does. Nonetheless, I think that the foundation that Ritual was founded on remain the same for all of organizations. If you looked at everyone’s Creed, you would see a lot of similarities especially the VALUES!!! Maybe, I should not say all, but I am pretty confident that we all share similar values—we value brother/sisterhood, service, academics, leadership, personal development, and generally, some where in the Ritual or Creed it eludes to becoming better people!
So I guess the biggest SECRET about my thoughts about RITUAL is, yes, there are differences among our RITUAL, but in the end, I think they are more ALIKE than DIFFERENT.
My other thought about RITUAL is that Ritual should be practiced DAILY. Like the video we watched said, Ritual is not a performance; it is a WAY OF LIVING. Ritual should not be HIDDEN; it should be SHARED with others within and outside of our community. Maybe, we do not share every detail, but we share the PURPOSE. What Ritual means to us? I think once we are able to really appreciate our Ritual, and what it truly means we can start to incorporate it into our lives and then share it with others, and finally, we can expect it from them!
One thing that I learned from UIFI that I loved was the saying below:
LEARN IT.
LIVE IT.
TEACH IT.
EXPECT IT.
The big saying at UIFI was LTR!!! (LIVE YOUR RITUAL)!
So, again, my secret thoughts are that RITUAL should not be a SECRET!!!
Well, I guess my secret thoughts about Ritual are that its not really a SECRET! Yes, everyone has their own ceremony, and unique things that its individual chapter does. Nonetheless, I think that the foundation that Ritual was founded on remain the same for all of organizations. If you looked at everyone’s Creed, you would see a lot of similarities especially the VALUES!!! Maybe, I should not say all, but I am pretty confident that we all share similar values—we value brother/sisterhood, service, academics, leadership, personal development, and generally, some where in the Ritual or Creed it eludes to becoming better people!
So I guess the biggest SECRET about my thoughts about RITUAL is, yes, there are differences among our RITUAL, but in the end, I think they are more ALIKE than DIFFERENT.
My other thought about RITUAL is that Ritual should be practiced DAILY. Like the video we watched said, Ritual is not a performance; it is a WAY OF LIVING. Ritual should not be HIDDEN; it should be SHARED with others within and outside of our community. Maybe, we do not share every detail, but we share the PURPOSE. What Ritual means to us? I think once we are able to really appreciate our Ritual, and what it truly means we can start to incorporate it into our lives and then share it with others, and finally, we can expect it from them!
One thing that I learned from UIFI that I loved was the saying below:
LEARN IT.
LIVE IT.
TEACH IT.
EXPECT IT.
The big saying at UIFI was LTR!!! (LIVE YOUR RITUAL)!
So, again, my secret thoughts are that RITUAL should not be a SECRET!!!
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
What kinda of power do you have? Soul Power:
So I love the inspiring youtubes, and I love Remember The Titans! What a good movie! I like what Denzel Washington says about Change and then how he says, "If we don't come together, right now, on this hallow ground; we, too, will be destroyed. Just like they were."
So maybe Greek Life wont be destoyed today, tomorrow, or a few years, but if it doesnt change maybe someday what we all loved so much won't be here? I am so sick of talking about change; it is time we stop talking about it and just do it!
Leading with courage and without fear. Which means they do what is right, not what is easiest.
So maybe Greek Life wont be destoyed today, tomorrow, or a few years, but if it doesnt change maybe someday what we all loved so much won't be here? I am so sick of talking about change; it is time we stop talking about it and just do it!
Leading with courage and without fear. Which means they do what is right, not what is easiest.
Where are we?
We, as Undergraduate Members of Women's Fraternities, stand for good scholarship, for guarding of good health, for maintenance of fine standards, and for serving, to the best of our ability, our college community. Cooperation for furthering Fraternity life, in harmony with its best possibilities , is the ideal that shall guide our Fraternity activities.
We, as Fraternity Women, stand for service through the development of character inspired by the close contact and deep friendship of individual Fraternity and Panhellenic life. The opportunity for wide and wise through human service, through mutual respect and helpfulness, is the tenet by which we strive to live.
So many of you might know what the above paragraphs are from; many of you probably do not. Above is the Creed for the Panhellenic Association. As an Exec Board, we wanted to discuss our Creed with the women on council as we feel that if we do not know what our organization stands for and believes in we will be unable to lead our community in the right direction and provide the best programs and opportunities to promote the development of our members. So what is in the Creed.... It looks pretty straight forward, right? but when you read the ideals that we pledge to uphold. Are we the ladies of the Panhellenic Association really upholding these values?
Yes and no we are.... I guess it is easiest to go in order:
1. Scholarship: Yes, we do hold a higher GPA average than non Greeks but are all our members performing to their best ability? Are we providing the resources to encourage academic success? Are our standards high enough?
2. Good Health: Hmmm... I am not so sure we have got this one down. Drinking and sex surrounds the stereotype of our community, and even our own members stated that when we asked them about Ritual. How do we change this? How do we help our members be more responsible? We always have the speakers come in and give their personal story; though these are heartfelt, how many members take it to heart? Many leave saying that won't happen to me....
3. Maintenance of fine standards: Again, unfortunately, I feel that we fall short. Yes, we fulfill the standards of excellence requirements; key word, requirements. Do we do these events b/c we have too or do we do them b/c they are required to be in good standings? We need to appreciate diversity, and not just send 75% of our members to get the check mark by diversity event completed...
4. Serve our college community: Well, I do not think the Haiti Dinner can go unnoticed, and I know I am being a little skeptical and unsatisfied in this blog, but we talk about change and we preach that we uphold these standards, and I guess I just wonder when are we going to really? So yes, we have done things for our college community, but is it enough? I feel that if we really had made an impact on our college community more people would want to be Greek. They would be able to point out things and be like "oh yea, those Greeks did this or that for the freshman or for the University..."
5.Cooperation for furthering Fraternity life: Yes, progress is being made, but I still would not say that our community is truly valued based. And yes we are growing, but how do we are growing in quality not quantity?
6. Service: No. I do not think that many of us enough. Sure we have excuses: we have class, work, more class, meetings, org., chapter. but many of us are still able to make it to the tg on thursday night?
7. Development of character: I think by achieving all of the ideals of the community one truly develops his/her character. I dunno this is hard b/c yes I think that Greek Life is amazing and it definitely helps with character building, but have we developed each member's character? I know many of us do, but can we be content with many?
8. Friendship: I think this is the best attribute of the Greek Community. To truly develop friendships that we can call someone a sister or brother. BUT friendship should extend across chapters; competition and sterotypes still exist, and though competition is good. Isn't one of the main purposes of Greek Life reaching our potential and developing character? So if we talk bad about others or think we are too cool for another chapter are we being the best we can be? do we really have a lot of character?
9. Wide and wise: This one is kinda tough? I guess it depends on how you interpret it, but I am gonna take it as through our experiences we are growing in all aspects: intellectually, in our perspective of life, and our characters.
10. Respect, helpfulness: Not too much.. Similar to #8 we need to work on relationships across chapter lines and unfortunately, I can think of instances when I have seen a lack of respect for women of the same chapter...
So what was the point of this blog novel? For me, I really want to break down the Creed and see what we are all about, and now after looking at it, it is my goal to start to change the negative above into positive. To help others appreciate Greek Life and to provide opportunities for growth among our community, specifically, starting with our Council. I want us to understand what we believe in so we can put those thoughts into actions...
We, as Fraternity Women, stand for service through the development of character inspired by the close contact and deep friendship of individual Fraternity and Panhellenic life. The opportunity for wide and wise through human service, through mutual respect and helpfulness, is the tenet by which we strive to live.
So many of you might know what the above paragraphs are from; many of you probably do not. Above is the Creed for the Panhellenic Association. As an Exec Board, we wanted to discuss our Creed with the women on council as we feel that if we do not know what our organization stands for and believes in we will be unable to lead our community in the right direction and provide the best programs and opportunities to promote the development of our members. So what is in the Creed.... It looks pretty straight forward, right? but when you read the ideals that we pledge to uphold. Are we the ladies of the Panhellenic Association really upholding these values?
Yes and no we are.... I guess it is easiest to go in order:
1. Scholarship: Yes, we do hold a higher GPA average than non Greeks but are all our members performing to their best ability? Are we providing the resources to encourage academic success? Are our standards high enough?
2. Good Health: Hmmm... I am not so sure we have got this one down. Drinking and sex surrounds the stereotype of our community, and even our own members stated that when we asked them about Ritual. How do we change this? How do we help our members be more responsible? We always have the speakers come in and give their personal story; though these are heartfelt, how many members take it to heart? Many leave saying that won't happen to me....
3. Maintenance of fine standards: Again, unfortunately, I feel that we fall short. Yes, we fulfill the standards of excellence requirements; key word, requirements. Do we do these events b/c we have too or do we do them b/c they are required to be in good standings? We need to appreciate diversity, and not just send 75% of our members to get the check mark by diversity event completed...
4. Serve our college community: Well, I do not think the Haiti Dinner can go unnoticed, and I know I am being a little skeptical and unsatisfied in this blog, but we talk about change and we preach that we uphold these standards, and I guess I just wonder when are we going to really? So yes, we have done things for our college community, but is it enough? I feel that if we really had made an impact on our college community more people would want to be Greek. They would be able to point out things and be like "oh yea, those Greeks did this or that for the freshman or for the University..."
5.Cooperation for furthering Fraternity life: Yes, progress is being made, but I still would not say that our community is truly valued based. And yes we are growing, but how do we are growing in quality not quantity?
6. Service: No. I do not think that many of us enough. Sure we have excuses: we have class, work, more class, meetings, org., chapter. but many of us are still able to make it to the tg on thursday night?
7. Development of character: I think by achieving all of the ideals of the community one truly develops his/her character. I dunno this is hard b/c yes I think that Greek Life is amazing and it definitely helps with character building, but have we developed each member's character? I know many of us do, but can we be content with many?
8. Friendship: I think this is the best attribute of the Greek Community. To truly develop friendships that we can call someone a sister or brother. BUT friendship should extend across chapters; competition and sterotypes still exist, and though competition is good. Isn't one of the main purposes of Greek Life reaching our potential and developing character? So if we talk bad about others or think we are too cool for another chapter are we being the best we can be? do we really have a lot of character?
9. Wide and wise: This one is kinda tough? I guess it depends on how you interpret it, but I am gonna take it as through our experiences we are growing in all aspects: intellectually, in our perspective of life, and our characters.
10. Respect, helpfulness: Not too much.. Similar to #8 we need to work on relationships across chapter lines and unfortunately, I can think of instances when I have seen a lack of respect for women of the same chapter...
So what was the point of this blog novel? For me, I really want to break down the Creed and see what we are all about, and now after looking at it, it is my goal to start to change the negative above into positive. To help others appreciate Greek Life and to provide opportunities for growth among our community, specifically, starting with our Council. I want us to understand what we believe in so we can put those thoughts into actions...
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